Betsy, Tony, and Joe – Freshman Year

Betsy experiences her first two big crushes in Heaven to Betsy. Both Tony and Joe will intrigue her and to some extent compete for her throughout the high school books. When Betsy meets Joe Willard at Butternut Center, she is immediately taken with his wit and good looks. But when Betsy first encounters Tony Markham at the Christian Endeavor social hour sponsored by the town’s Presbyterian church (presided over by Betsy’s new friend Bonnie Andrews), she is thunderstruck. He is charming, handsome, cool, slightly older, and new in town: the epitome of the “Tall, Dark Stranger” that she had dreamed of someday meeting.

When Tony visits the Ray house, he is warmly welcomed and feels instantly at home. Tony and Julia sing duets around the piano; with Herbert and Cab, he becomes a fixture in the kitchen, especially at Sunday Night Lunch; and perhaps most endearingly, Tony and Betsy’s younger sister Margaret become fast friends. Soon, Tony is all that Betsy can think about. But Tony only sees Betsy as a sister; his romantic feelings are for Bonnie. Betsy’s heart breaks time and again throughout the book as she tries and fails to get him to notice her as more than a friend.

Teenage romance was a prevalent theme in the young adult literature of the 1940s-1960s. Popular novelists of the era, including Rosamond duJardin, Betty Cavanna, Anne Emery, Beverly Clearly, and Janet Lambert created evocative, finely drawn worlds in which heroines experienced a (usually chaste) love for the very first time. Often in series format, these books offered their young readers a glimpse of a slightly more adult life toward which they might aspire. Maud Hart Lovelace’s realistic and heart-wrenching portrayals of teenage love, friendship, and growth place her among the most important of these wonderful authors.

Betsy, Tony, and Joe will cross paths often through the high school books. Betsy’s tempestuous crush on Tony is most prominent in this book, while her feelings for Joe develop more slowly and gradually throughout the remainder of the series. Betsy and Joe have more in common than Betsy and Tony, which turns out to matter! They share a love of writing and literature and ideas, and are selected as the freshman class representatives to compete in the important year-end Essay Contest.

Betsy spends more time at parties than she does at the library reading about the present and future value of the Phillipines, the topic on which she must become expert for the contest. When Joe offers to walk Betsy home after a study session in the library, and even suggests that he might share some of what he has learned about the Phillipines, he is rebuffed when Tony arrives to walk her home. This is not the first time that Joe and Betsy have crossed signals, and it won’t be the last.

To Betsy’s dismay, Tony’s intentions toward Betsy still aren’t romantic; Cab and Herbert join them for the goofy, rambunctious walk home. And soon Betsy will realize that her feelings for Tony are nothing more than friendship as well, and that she allowed her social life to thoroughly displace academics this year. Betsy loses handily to Joe in the Essay Contest, and with overwhelming regret, vows that she will prioritize her writing going forward….a critical step into a more fulfilling future.

For an overview of teen romance novelists of the era, see Carolyn Steele Agosta’s blog: https://www.carolynsteeleagosta.com/post/sweet-teen-romance-novels-1940s-1960s#:~:text=A%20few%20other%20popular%20authors,them%20humiliating%20and%20’mushy’.

Betsy Meets Joe

Now fourteen, Betsy is growing up. She is tall, slender, and conscious of her looks, putting curlers (Magic Wavers) in her hair and applying face cream nightly. She spends two weeks at the Taggarts’ farm the summer before she starts high school. She is desperately homesick, but too stubborn to ask to return.

On the train trip home, during a layover at Butternut Center, Betsy wanders into Willard’s Emporium, the town’s general store, and Betsy meets the boy who would become the love of her life. Joe Willard emerges in the Betsy-Tacy universe fully conceived: he is handsome, proud, witty, curious, and kind, with a keen interest in literature (he is reading The Three Musketeers for the sixth time when Betsy first sees him) that matches Betsy’s own. As he helps Betsy shop for presents for her family, they joke and banter like old friends.

When it is time to say goodbye, Betsy does not know how to further the encounter. She hasn’t started going out with boys, and, unlike her sister Julia, doesn’t know how to flirt or encourage him to call on her. She manages a few words of thanks, though, and Joe tosses off one last joke. She re-boards the train feeling reasonably satisfied and more than a little independent.

American courtship customs were in an emergent state in the very early 1900s. Courting or “calling on” someone was not yet called “dating” (as it would be starting in the 1920s or so), but the prior system of arranged marriages was giving way to one that was love-based. Couples generally spent time together under parental or organizational supervision, were not allowed to go out together alone, and did not ordinarily have romantic physical contact except in the most serious of relationships, generally those headed toward marriage.

Dating norms have changed tremendously over the years, of course. They are often spurred forward by technologies, such as the automobile, which provided couples with privacy and a means to escape the family home, and the internet, which permitted dating to be initiated and even conducted online. Still, the feelings and desires that underlie the romantic adventures of Betsy and her friends throughout the rest of the books in the series, including Betsy’s uncertainty as to how to perpetuate her flirtation with Joe, are exactly as they might be experienced today. Lovelace’s depictions of romantic attraction, intrigue, confusion, jealousy, and heartbreak in the Betsy-Tacy series are vivid, universal, and identical across time, space, and any other imaginable dimension.

Joe will not become Betsy’s paramour for some time to come, but the seeds for their eventual partnership are sown in their effortless give-and-take as she shops for the gifts:

Joe: “Cheese for your father. Sharp or mild?”

Betsy: “Sharp.”

Joe: “If you brought home mild cheese, he wouldn’t let you in, I’ll bet.”

Betsy: “He’d use it for the mousetrap.”

(p. 15, Harper Trophy paperback edition, 1994)

Playful romantic chemistry: delicious in every era.

On the history of courtship and dating, see: https://bashcub.com/features/2023/12/07/the-history-of-dating-and-how-it-has-changed-in-the-last-century/

See also this classic sociological account of the transformation of courtship, dating, and marriage over time: Stephanie Coontz. 2006. Marriage: A History. Penguin Random House. https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/291184/marriage-a-history-by-stephanie-coontz/

New House, New School, New Friends: Processing Change

The Rays surprise Betsy by moving from Hill Street to a big house on High Street while she is away visiting the Taggart farm. The new house has all the modern conveniences: a gas stove, a furnace, a bathroom! The girls each have their own bedroom.

Betsy feigns happiness, but is miserable. She had loved their small house with its hitching post, proximity to the Big Hill, and, especially, living across the street from Tacy. She had actually loved the coziness of bathing in the kitchen and sleeping in the same bed as Julia. And even Tib has left town; her family has moved back to Milwaukee.

No sooner do the Rays get settled in than Betsy must start high school, which is just two blocks from the new house. She and Tacy begin to familiarize themselves with the school clubs (Zetamathians and Philomathians), customs (back corner assembly seats are the best!) and classes (Latin, algebra, ancient history, composition). New “hired girl” Anna moves in, too, replete with fantastical stories about her prior (possibly fictional?) employers, the McCloskeys. This whirlwind of activity distracts Betsy from her sorrow.

Winona, Carney, Bonnie, Cab, Irma, Larry, Herbert, Tony, and Tom (when he is not away at his military school Cox Military) join Betsy and Tacy in a bustling social group that will become known as “the Crowd.” Their parties and antics will circumscribe Betsy’s life in the high school books, even as the group expands, contracts, and changes over the years. Betsy is excited to see that Joe Willard also goes to her high school. But he doesn’t seem to socialize or to want to join a Crowd; it turns out that he is an orphan, has a job after school, and needs the money. And after their chemistry-filled meet-cute at his family’s store at the end of summer, he’s now barely acknowledging Betsy.

Personal and societal change is a historical constant, of course, in which technology has always played a large part. Many aspects of life in the digital age, from work to play to love and leisure, are marked by rapid, disruptive, ever-accelerating technological change. Every social institution has been transformed by technology, from the family to education to religion to the government. And the Betsy-Tacy series demonstrates that this has always been the case. In Heaven to Betsy we see the impact of technological change on one small group of Midwesterners, and one young woman in particular, as more modern conveniences (telephones, gas stoves, automobiles, better hair curlers!) become a part of her everyday life, and she feels her life expand in previously unimaginable ways.

Betsy must process some of life’s many upheavals in this book. While she resists new things and new ways at first, she will soon come to realize their value. She will make some strikingly bold moves of her own in the years to come, including changing her religion, dropping out of college, and traveling the world, largely on her own. The theme of coping with change will be a recurrent one in the series. As the epigraph to Heaven to Betsy, a quote from Henry W. Longfellow, poignantly states, “All things must change. To something new, to something strange.”

On the varied impacts of digitality and technological change on community, society, and self, see: Mary Chayko. 2021. Superconnected: The Internet, Digital Media, and Techno-Social Life. (3rd edition, SAGE) https://collegepublishing.sagepub.com/products/superconnected-the-internet-digital-media-and-techno-social-life-3-259314