Betsy and Joe’s Marriage

Betsy and Joe find an apartment and settle into it and into their marriage. Betsy makes a list of rules for married life for herself centered mostly around being a good wife, housekeeper, and cook, which she expects to be her greatest challenge, and one that she approaches with grit and determination. Maintaining house and home was the responsibility of women back then, and while women have more freedom today, to some extent the expectations underlying those norms remain. Total gender equality has certainly not been reached, nor has pay equity. But a true partnership is more possible today, as are same-sex marriages, in which household labor is not divided by gender.

Still, Betsy and Joe approach their marriage as a partnership, which, for that era, it was. He supports her writing and helps her make time for it. He is attentive to her needs and feelings. They treat one another with care and respect. While their sex life is only implied, it is obvious that they find one another highly attractive and sexy, and that Joe is especially fond of the pink silk lingerie that he periodically asks her to put on.

Their easy work-leisure routine is interrupted by the request of Joe’s Aunt Ruth to come live with them. They decide to buy a house so as to have the space to accommodate her. While Betsy is initially unhappy and worried that a new arrival (that isn’t a baby) would be disruptive to their lives, she comes to love Aunt Ruth and accept her presence in their home.

Joe takes a job working late night hours at the paper for more money, and finds himself struggling with the work and with his colleagues. He is increasingly moody and sometimes shuts himself off from Betsy. But they continue to support one another’s wellbeing, hopes, and dreams, and their love deepens.

On women’s rights and marriage, see: https://www.law.georgetown.edu/georgetown-law-journal/in-print/volume-108/nineteenth-amendment-edition/reconstructing-liberty-equality-and-marriage-the-missing-nineteenth-amendment-argument/#:~:text=The%20social%20movement%20that%20led,as%20to%20women%20as%20citizens.

The Digital Betsy-Tacy Project is an initiative born at Rutgers University in 2025. In it, we explore the experience of revisiting literature and media from one’s childhood as we take a journey through the Betsy-Tacy books, Maud Hart Lovelace’s classic, much-loved series of children’s/young adult historical fiction.

In the first phase of the project, depicted on this website, we gather, curate, research, and analyze some of the most important moments and themes in the books. We also consider how they may relate to, and even help us understand, life in a modern, digital society. Subsequent phases of the project will explore in greater depth themes and insights that are surfaced here and may extend the study to other classic children’s books and media.

The Digital Betsy-Tacy Project was publicly launched at the Betsy-Tacy Convention in Mankato, MN in October 2025. Posts continue to be added afterward, here on this site and in the Project’s LinkedIn Group, The Digital Betsy-Tacy Project. Just click on the book titles in the navigation menu to view the posts associated with each one, and feel free to join the LinkedIn group.

Wit, wisdom, insights, and lessons of all kinds abound in these “tomes,” as they are affectionately referred to by Lovelace’s legion of admirers. This project is not meant to be an exhaustive collection of these, but a repository upon which others may build. Ideally, the relevance and the significance of the Betsy-Tacy series to generations of readers of all ages (including my Rutgers students!) will be enhanced and preserved, and many more reimaginations will follow.

Content on the Digital Betsy-Tacy Project website may be accessed free of charge and freely shared for personal and/or educational purposes. Cite and credit the Digital Betsy-Tacy Project when sharing, repurposing, or teaching this material.

The Digital Betsy-Tacy Project is directed by Mary Chayko, Ph.D., its principal researcher, writer, and editor. Dr. Chayko is a sociologist, author, and professor at Rutgers University’s School of Communication and Information. She has been studying life in a digital society for over 30 years. She speaks nationally and internationally and publishes widely on the impact of digital technology on everyday life, relationships, community, and the self. Her books include Superconnected: The Internet, Digital Media, and Techo-Social Life (Sage Publications, 3 editions: 2021, 2018, 2016, plus translations in Korean, Turkish, and Serbian), Portable Communities: The Social Dynamics of Online Connectedness (SUNY Press, 2008), and Connecting: How We Form Social Bonds and Communities in the Internet Age (SUNY Press, 2002).

She can be reached at mary dot chayko at rutgers dot edu.

Welcome!

The Digital Betsy-Tacy Project is a journey through Maud Hart Lovelace’s classic, much-loved series of children’s/young adult historical fiction, the Betsy-Tacy books. We gather and analyze key moments in the books as we explore the experience of revisiting literature and media from one’s youth. Come along for the ride!

Based at Rutgers University, the project provides an overview of some of the most important and revelatory vignettes in the Betsy-Tacy books and considers how they relate to and even help us understand life in a digital society. Click on the book titles in the navigation menu to view the posts associated with each book. New posts are added weekly on this site and in the LinkedIn group The Digital Betsy-Tacy Project (feel free to join!), following the project’s public launch at the Betsy-Tacy Convention in Mankato, MN in October 2025.

Subsequent phases of the project will explore in greater depth some of the themes that surface in this stage and may extend the study to other classic children’s books and media. All in all, it promises to be a fun-filled journey providing a fresh examination and reimagination of these classic works and how they may impact our own life stories and worlds.

We begin with the first book in the series, Betsy-Tacy, set in 1896-97 and published in 1940, and continue through to Betsy’s Wedding, set in 1917-19 and published in 1955. Throughout the ten volumes, the story becomes progressively more complex in style and substance as the characters age from childhood to early adulthood. An intimate look at early 20th century life that is drawn from Lovelace’s own personal experiences, the books are historically accurate yet completely timeless, and surprisingly relevant to the present day.

In the familiarity and warmth of the literature of the past can arise great wisdom, wit, insights, and lessons that are highly relevant to life today. The Digital Betsy-Tacy Project gathers and preserves them here, free of charge, for pleasure, practicality, and educational purposes. Browse, read, share, teach, enjoy! HarperCollins paperback versions of these books can be found at the links below:

Maud Hart Lovelace

Maud Hart Lovelace (1892 – 1980) was the author of the Betsy-Tacy books, as well as other stories and books for children, young adults, and adults. Born and raised in Mankato, Minnesota, she was a writer all her life, asking her mother how to spell “going down the street” at the age of five.

The Betsy-Tacy series was based on Maud’s experiences growing up with her parents, sisters, and a crowd of friends, all of whom are represented in the books, with names and some personal characteristics altered. Maud was “Betsy” in the series; we see the story through her eyes. Maud’s best friend, Frances “Bick” Kenney, was Betsy’s bashful bestie Tacy in the books; their spirited pal Marjorie “Midge” Gerlach was their dear friend Tib.

Maud’s husband Delos Lovelace, also a noted author, was Joe Willard in the Betsy-Tacy high school books. Their story of falling in love was fictionalized to fit into Betsy’s timeline, as Maud did not meet Delos until a bit later in life. Maud and Delos Lovelace had one daughter, Merian, and an infant son who lived only hours. Maud liked to tell Merian stories about her life growing up in Mankato, and Merian and Delos were so charmed by the tales that they encouraged her to write them down.

Those stories became the Betsy-Tacy books. Maud’s hometown of Mankato became, famously, “Deep Valley.” The stories provide a fascinating glimpse into life in the late 1890s and early 1900s in a small midwestern town. Even more remarkably, they reveal that much about life, love, and friendship remains the same today as a century ago.

Memorably, ingeniously, Maud wrote with progressively more sophisticated language, tone, and narrative as the children age throughout the series. The first book, Betsy-Tacy, has the simplest structure, and is for grade school children. As Betsy and her friends grow older, their relationships deepen, along with the situations and challenges they face. The later books take Betsy and her friends through high school and into adulthood, and are written for a young adult / adult audience.

Many themes are carried through the series, however. These include: the centrality of friendship and family; the value of independent thought and action, especially for women; the pleasures of writing, music, and travel; the importance of planning, discipline, perseverance, adaptability, spirituality, loyalty, and staying true to oneself in a life well and fully lived.

Maud’s legacy is enshrined in the Maud Hart Lovelace Book Award (by the Minnesota Youth Reading Book Awards), and in the devotion of generations of readers, many of whom gather virtually and occasionally physically via social media groupings, email lists, group chats and book discussions, and as the Betsy-Tacy Society. The Society has restored Betsy and Tacy’s original houses on Center Street in Mankato (Hill Street in Deep Valley, in the books) and is a resource for all things related to the books and to Maud Hart Lovelace. See https://www.betsy-tacysociety.org/ for more on the Betsy-Tacy Society. The books are published by Harper Collins and available at:

Maud Hart Lovelace also wrote three books in which Betsy and other Betsy-Tacy characters appear: Emily of Deep Valley, Carney’s House Party, and Winona’s Pony Cart. These are also delightful, and are important additions to the Betsy-Tacy canon, but as Betsy is not the lead character in these books, they are not highlighted in the Digital Betsy-Tacy Project at this time.

Photo of Maud Hart Lovelace: Estate of Merien Kirchner; HarperCollins website. Photos of books: Harper Collins website

Reading/Teaching/Discussion Guide — from the Betsy-Tacy Society

The Betsy-Tacy Society, a wonderful nonprofit organization dedicated to the preservation of the Betsy-Tacy books and houses, has developed the following guide for parents, teachers, and librarians interested in introducing the Betsy-Tacy books to children (and others!) Below are links to the guide and to the Betsy-Tacy Society website.